Ann had tough time reacting to what I was sharing to her. She was absolutely confused as to be happy or
sad on what I said. I was telling her
that my Cat passed away yesterday and she did not know if she need to say “Oh
No!” or “Oh Good!”
Tommy, my Cat was 4 years old and it was the pet of the
house. Providing an animal food and
shelter makes it a less animal, whose normal instinct is to hunt and safe guard
its life. It is not the best thing we
could do to them as we are robbing its natural way of existence in this world
to fight against anything coming its way, internal or external problems. We realized it when Tommy fell ill and it has
gone into its shell of not responding to anyone and just lying down in a corner
of the room, for hours, days and months together. That’s the Cats way of recovering and that
would be the best way of recovery for any “body” in this world as all the life
can cure themselves without any external intervention.
In this process, it starved and lost lots of weight. The family couldn’t take the suffering it
went through and it hurt more when it did not allow us to come closer to do any
help. Tommy’s battle was tough and we
could see it losing the battle day by day.
Life, as it always does, wins eventually! Everyone of us was sad.
Ann, knowing everything about Tommy and liking it very
much, for sure felt relieved that Tommy would suffer no more, but was also
under the pressure to console us as we were grieving about Tommy. She dint know if she needs to say “Oh No, you
lost Tommy! Or “Oh Good, at last Tommy will suffer no more!”
Emotions are sometimes such complicated to understand and
handle. We are mostly programmed to
react to the acceptance of the person to whom these emotions are expressed and
not what you feel actually. What we
express mostly would be for the society and what we feel inside is actually who
we are and how we would see the situation.
Either we make both of these similar or we understand and
accept that these can never be same because of the way in which we see the world. If not, we would get stuck as Ann, not sure
what to react and how to handle the situation/person.