"Can you give me 2 mins please?" Dhivya answered the phone call
How often have we said this? And how often was this really 2 mins?
I am trying to give some insight on how words work in our brain - if you are someone who can't take any advise or criticism, please do stop here. Its not for light hearted people!
There is a whole branch of psychology known as NLP, Neurolingusitic program. This deals with the connection between how our brain works versus how words are used. Which inturn means, the choice of words you use has a great impact on how your brain works, how your emotions rally up and what do you actually mean when you say something to people.
For Dhivya, what she said just means give me some time or i am in the middle of something or i cant speak to u right now or give me some time or maybe she is not in a mood to speak now and she has decided to respond politely. She could have said these words directly, but she choose to use the "2mins", this is probably because she has not sorted out herself what she wants in her mind actually and what she says to others.
This at the very core means, what comes out of your mouth is never what you want actually - your caring words for others are probably not genuine care! It might sound rude, but sometimes it happens.
Why does this happen? What can we do to improve on this area if we want to communicate better?
"Ask yourself what do I actually want to say". The solution maybe simple, but it is difficult to follow as most of the time we do not what to say or we don't want to say what we think for various reasons.
But, why do we have to do this? why can't I continue saying "2mins"? ...We can do it, but we are allowing the disparity of what we think inside versus what comes out of mouth to increase and this is a very big hindrance in achieving what we want to get in life because we are not clear between what's going on in your mind versus what actually you do.
As mathematician says, the shortest distance between two points in a straight line, start vocalising what you think in your mind, at least to yourself and you would really know how far are we from what is happening in our life to how you want it to happen.
Easy said than done!...But it's never late to try. Who else would look at you so close if you can't face your internal self?
